As children we learn messages, behaviors, and rules that appear to increase our capacity to be loved and cared for. It soon becomes evident, even if the mind understanding isn’t developed enough to understand yet, that these really are survival tools. And, the quicker we adapt to them and apply them then the greater our chances of growing up and succeeding, according to the existing standard. Immediately, the child senses that something is out of line and dishonoring but this awareness cannot be articulated. In the land of giants and harsh potential consequences the choice for survival means do as you are told.
The universe responds through Law to these decisions and the situational support begins to arrive in the form of people, places, things, and events. The child slips deeper into accepting the doctrine of limitations and the shining beauty grows ever tarnished. The way out of this is re-education, replacing the misinformation with the life-affirming choices available in these times. But, for most, this is not an option. One who chooses clarity over fitting soon reawakens an inner knowing that helps her to see that the smokescreen has hidden the inner child self and steered him towards and into the chains of compromise through fear…up until now. This recognition is the starting point for the activation of the adult self to begin to take the child in and offer alternative perspectives. Something revolutionary happens when out of the mists, the child takes the hand of the adult. What follows are excerpts from Tools for the Times: A Journey of Reawakening:
- Lifetime after lifetime the cycles of ignorance and the belief in limitations have snaked along. We are born into families and circumstances perfect for our reawakening, but until now, we did not know it. The family collection and the individuals contained had their issues. Their own wounds influenced mightily how they showed up in moments. Every new born child reminds the parents of their own remarkable design, forgotten and misplaced for the moment. This can be troubling, triggering wounds that misunderstood, are laid upon the inner and outer energy field of the precious being who carries the truth of the original design…you. The past is played out and the sins of the father perpetuate upon the generations…until someone chooses to stop the cycle.
- Your growing remembering of who you are is interrupting the runaway cycles of the just the way it is. Here is where re-parenting comes in. You simply must take it upon yourself to become the parent to your own child, the parent that you never had…stable, balanced, healthy, filled with knowledge and the willingness to act upon it to create the perfect environment, within and without, to keep the little one remembering who they truly are…until the point when she can take over the maintenance on his own.
- To re-parent is to replace the misinformation. It involves the use of the multiple dimensions of child and parent, each called upon as necessary to remove the misinformation, lift the veils, reseed the inner knowing, create trust, and oversee the reawakening. In this recovered frequency the child then surrenders to the trusting relationship with the Adult/Parent self and allows herself to immerse with the beauty and the flow of life.
- The child has to feel safe. Do this by making sure she knows you are there for her, that you will never abandon him, and that you will love her without condition or question. Ever building and reinforcing safety opens the door to taking away the misappropriated responsibilities he took on, far beyond his consciousness and years.
- The child needs to know his needs will be met: food, shelter, money, water, clothing, and an ever expanding acceptance of her unique expression of the I Am expressing as Me. Consistent communication and care must be adhered to allow the release of resistance and protection on the child’s part.
- When the child knows his needs are met, she will be trusting and willing to let go of the control of, one by one…beliefs, actions, patterns. He will open up to re-education. She will soon see how she did a lot of things to assure her survival, things that honestly, were way beyond her years. He will gladly let go because the burden of responsibility robbed her of his childhood. You are here to give it back.
- To re-parent, one must open up and maintain channels of two way communication with the little one. You have to show interest, give direction and love, have fun, play with her, reinforce your continued presence and availability. You must include her in all the things you do unless it is inappropriate, then you let him know what you expect. He wants guidelines and parameters that she can butt up against, wants to be able to access power and risk but know that you are there to catch him should she stumble, wants to have a loving, mutually serving relationship with you.
- In other words, do everything that you would like to have had done for you as a child, and more.
- And you must know by now that this is all about conscious self care. To focus on the inner child opens the door to care that many would be unwilling to apply to themselves due to worthiness issues. The inner child is real, but self care attends to all parts of ourselves equally.
The child needs to know the truth about this dimension. She knew it before she arrived and carried the experience of so many lives in so many flavors with him. The information becomes the long awaited validation of the inner knowing, that glorious exclamation of, “I knew it!” That is the heralded independence day that draws the line between the past and the what is to be.
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