This process requires participation by the adult and the parental parts of the Whole self as the communication must be two way for the child to develop the willingness to surrender control and release patterns. It is the adult self that provides the supportive structure and also gives appropriate guidance when necessary or, better yet, called for. The adult self has learned patterns and  ways of being as a result of the amorphous connection with the child up until now. He/she will also be invited and required to make shifts and develop a more authentic expression of self. The child is watching. The parental part must develop and apply new strategies of loving support and guidance as well. This journal then is for both so they can share thoughts, brainstorm, release frustrations, give self appreciation, etc. Ideally, an entry a day is a very good thing. Be spontaneous…that is even better.
- How do you feel about taking on this role of re-educating and supporting your own little child self? What are your concerns? What are your anticipations? To what degree are you willing to value this process and create a loving structure that will empower that tender, precious part of you?
- Now that you have had a period of time to digest the idea behind this process, what comes up for you? Are you excited and motivated? Or does it feel like an additional weight upon your shoulders? Do you really want to create a deeper relationship with your inner child self? What has come up thus far for you? Do you see anything that can get in the way of this journey together?
- Start to reflect on what each of you can do to create a functional relationship with your child self. What can each of you do to support the other? Jot some ideas down that you can refer to as the journey continues.
- Reflect on the process of being a loving parent. What are some of the things/behaviors/actions that would stem from one who is such? Make a list of some tools and techniques you feel would be a positive support for your child self. Remember what worked for you. Start sharing these with your child self and see if she would like to experience them. In some ways you are verifying the Love language that will work between the two of you.
- Go through the lists in Session 6 and make note of the most impactful messages upon you and your life, as an adult. Which are you drawn to still? Which are the ones that you find to be well entrenched in your viewpoints and experiences? Which do you think are the ones held on to by your child self?
- What do you think were the most difficult and damaging events of your growing up years. Make a list and annotate how they have impacted you. What were the learnings from them? Was there anything that grew out of them to empower you? Describe them.
- Looking at your child self, make a list of the important learnings, perspectives, truths that you feel your child self needs to know. Set up a time when you can share those with her. Discuss them so that he understands. Discuss your childs response to what you share.
- Make a list of what you like and love about your self as the adult. Take the time to share these with your child self. Are there any that are there in the child self as well? Tell him about this. Ask her what she appreciates about you.
- How does it feel to hear the new information in this session. Do you feel like you were set up in any way? Are you willing to let the child self be the leader here? Are you willing to support and educate her in this capacity? Share your concerns.
