The comparison wheel is perpetuated by cultural advertising and the incessant need to fit in, be liked, and become good enough. The self esteem industry is purposefully erratic and ever changing. Just as what is desirable in human body looks has changed frequently over time historically, the idea of what it is to be good enough and fit in is an oscillating merry go round of disappointment and pressure. And yet, most are trapped by it. A variation of the need to fit in is the tendency to decide what people are thinking about you…filling in the blanks…a behavior that is most often inaccurate to begin with, and, ultimately a massive waste of time and inner resources. The learned pressure filled action of self put down is well entrenched in most. This must stop…no two ways about it.
Often these beliefs are put into place by event, followed by a decision, and then repetition to keep the new belief and subsequent activity in motion. Re-education and the application of will are the solutions for this kind of self abuse.
- The re-education can include the following truths:
- There is nothing wrong with you
- You have nothing to prove to anyone
- You are powerful beyond your current knowing
- You are always in the right/best place at the right time…pay attention
- What you are experiencing in this moment is the best tool to re-awaken your deep knowing of who you are.
- You are here to remember fully who you are...and to then live in that frequency without hesitation
- You have everything within you to fully experience the rich multi-dimensional life
- You have to ask for help when you want it
- You have to be open and willing to receive that help when it comes
- Your body is the perfect vehicle in which to experience this Earthly dimension…especially when you take care of it
- Your opportunity is to live in the moment, clear the experiences energetically, hold no energetic debris, respond to life, stay open, and be in joy and celebration
- Your true design is re-emerging to reveal your foundational essence
- You have always been “good enough”. These judgments placed upon you have been fed by the wounds and poor self esteem of those you gave your power to.
- You are designed to live fully in the moment, responding to life in ways that allow you to access your skills and experience adventure and awakening.
Tending your self-esteem and re-establishing your personal value base require action. Here are some suggested activities that will assist you in remembering your magnificence:
- Reflect back on your life and make a list of all that you remember being told was wrong with you. Be thorough and include the strong ones as well as those that seemed so small.
- Make a list of what you consider your shortcomings. What is wrong with you as seen through your eyes? List the things that would make your life better if only you could change them.
- Invite your child self to join in and list all the ways she feels not good enough. Ask him what he thinks is wrong with him.
- Set these lists before you and take a few deep breaths. These have defined your life in many ways. It’s time to get into this pile and start to weed it out.Some of these are simply not true. They were taught or told and we, for whatever reason, chose to believe. Put an NT for not true next to them. Some of them you have proven wrong by growing and yet, they still impact you. Put an NLR for no longer relevant. Some are physical based and there is nothing that can be done, aside from cosmetic surgery, about them. Put a P next to them for physical. Some of these are taught to you by friends or family or culture. Put a T for taught next to them. Are you beginning to see that most of these are erroneous? Go through now and circle the ones that have impacted you the most.
- Now, for all those not circled, I invite you to address them one by one. Read them out loud. Feel them and notice the response in your body, if any. Tell them, “I see you. I thank you for what you have shown me along the way. I forgive you for the pain and discomfort you have caused me. I forgive myself for believing in you and compromising my life. You simply are not true. You hold no power over me. I now choose to release you and all the residue energy attached to believing in you and the acting on that belief. I release you and set you free. Be gone! Goodbye!”…then cut the cord of connection with it with a “Suh Htep Nah”. Then get up and turn and walk away from the energy and memory of it. Do this for every one of these.
- For those you have circled, I invite you to copy them to a new page put that list in a safe place for a future session on core issues.
- Once the energetic memory has cleared after each has been faced, seen, blessed, and released, you are ready to begin reprogramming with the new truths. Refer back to the list above. Put everything into first person I statements. Add anything you are guided to add. Put each at the top of the page. Divide the page into two columns. On the left side write down the statement. On the write side write down your first response, which likely will be something negative or not in agreement. Continue this sequence until you get agreement on the right side. This is the opening you have been looking for.
- Then begin on a 21 day repetition program saying, at the least, once in the morning and once before going to bed. The more you repeat the more efficient the programming. You might even want to record yourself speaking each. Then listen to the recording throughout the day. You are creating your new personal life affirming belief system here.
- Of course, the possibility exists that you will be revisited by the old beliefs. Natural. Recognize them. Tell them they have no power over you…be gone. Then replace the thought with an affirmative statement that states the desired new truth. Also, you can use the word, “cancel” when the old belief arises. The process of revisitation is part of the journey for you to demonstrate to self and cosmos your new frequency living. Like a spiral you come back to what was once important, but in a new and higher vibration to see how you will respond and discern if there is still work to do. Eventually, you will not have the reoccurrences.
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