We enter this incarnation into the Earth Plane with complete awareness and understanding of the big picture…and we are unable to access it to apply the knowing as we have to evolve into integrating the human body and its temporary restrictions. Kind of a cruel joke, it seems. But, consider it the rules of the dimensional playing field. Earth is about having the physical paradise that meets our every need in order to consciously remember who we are. Is it an easy journey…not by any means. Yet, it is increasingly possible to do it consciously in these remarkable and fast changing times.  


Understanding the bigger picture is a useful foundation in making your personal journey to reclaiming your Celestial Essence. Let’s look at your parents and your grandparents as powerful and significant elements/guides for your journey. It is no accident that you incarnated into the family lineage you did. From the higher perspective of pre-birth you are able to select specific people, places, and circumstances to provide the best opportunity for you to move through chosen issues, learn chosen lessons, fulfill certain mission choices, or to provide the kind of adventure you desire.


Something extremely important to remember is that every single human is in process to remember who they are by design and that each is at a different place in that process of reclamation. Everyone has unresolved issues and carries a varying degree of  energetic debris. Part of your incarnating into the family is also to assist the other players (parents, siblings, lineage) to also remember who they are. In other words, a whole lot is going on.


Your current parents are there to assist you in developing into the you of this incarnation. There are personalities, circumstances, choices, experiences that help this to move forward. Sometimes conflict is the best teacher. Sometimes unwavering love can soften the intensity of the journey. And then there is the element of past lives and connections. Throughout our incarnational journeys in the Earth plane we have been many variations of male and female in a host of circumstances and forms. There were events that impacted us as we also impacted others. Opportunities for awareness and learning abounded in each. By design the human is aligned with Source and is not open to lower frequency choices that harm any form of life. Yet, in the 3rd dimension there is free will. And this allows all kinds of things to happen, even horrible choices that harm and destroy. And, honestly, each of of has had many lives a a beautiful person as well as a murderer. It is all about experience.


The debris of those past life choices and experiences often transcends lives. And often, we find ourselves with individuals whom we had experiences with in the past. It is not uncommon for a child in the past to incarnate as the parent of the previous parent in the previous life. Fascinating, huh?


The point here is that a lot is going on, interweavings between lives, incarnations, players, soul group members, etc.  And it all can influence the relationship you have with your parents. Being aware of the big picture can help you to choose your responses differently.


Firstly, recognize that your parents likely do have your best interest in mind. There are many pressures in the world that contribute to shortness and conflict and anger outbursts. Sensitivity to what is going on is useful in tempering your response. You need an outlet to speak freely out loud as this will dissolve much of the energy that is building up, which contributes to ugly interactions. You can talk with a friend and share your challenges. You can set up your own scenarios and speak to an empty chare, pretending the one you are angry with is there. This is very effective in diminishing the unexpressed energetic baggage. You can write in your journal. I strongly encourage you to write with pen and paper as the very act of writing by moving the hand and making the shapes of the letters is cleansing to the nervous system. Typing is not. Hand on paper writing is a powerful tool. And you can also ignore the energy you feel and swallow it. The cost of this is that at some point it will explode outward and can create unresolvable consequences.


Many of your struggles with your parents can be resolved by you if you choose to diffuse the energy first.


Know also that, as a parent, many of their unresolved issues are triggered by your actions, voice, choices, etc. This is mostly unintentional. We all are moving to get healed. You are actually a useful element in their healing process, serving one another to gain clarity and balance. Of course, it doesn’t always work out this way.

If you stay aware of this then you can be more sensitive to the difficulties of the moment…empathizing with your parent, even showing compassion. One important truth here is that since you are younger you are much closer to remembering your true design as a being of Love and can access that bigger understanding more quickly (if you choose to).


Each being in a family is growing and changing and remembering who they are at different paces. It can get chaotic quickly. But you have incarnated together because it is the perfect place and situation for you, and the others, to work through the blocks to remembering who they are. Knowing this can allow you to hold the wider perspective and choose to not engage conflict, even when triggered. Relationships are proving grounds for each to remember who they are. Using them with Love and awareness can produce remarkable results.


Finally, your body energetic anatomy, the chakras and meridians and energy bodies, go through a powerful cleansing process from the ages of 14 to 20. Each chakra is focused on each year for the sake of clearing out any residual debris. This prepares you for adulthood that starts at

Age 21, allowing you to be clearer when you start your own life. It is important to note that each year can have a character and an experience of its own.


Age 14: dealing with basic needs being met, shelter, safety, being valued


Age 15: Sacral revisit where all wounds and abuses and any fear residue is brought to the surface to clear. Here too one’s passion, sensuality,  and creativity are addressed for clearing


Age 16: Solar Plexus revisit for issues of personal power, ability to decide, ability to take action on decisions, any issues/residue of anger, judgment, and criticism.


Age 17: Heart revisit where relationships and all the hurts of the past are brought up. Self love and compassion for others are also cleansed


Age 18: Throat Chakra revisit where all of the unspoken words aare invited forth. A time when personal expression and taking a stand in the world are present


Age 19: Third Eye Chakra revisit when one’s personal vision is cleansed. Self esteem and personal value are prepared for life out of the home. Misinformation is cleansed and beliefs are visited for restructuring


Age 20: Crown Chakra revisit where one clears blockages to the spiritual connections that are part of the original design. Blocks to Higher Self and Inner Child are brought to the surface.


All of this means that this period can be extremely challenging. Going through these energetic cleansings is enough. But put on top of it the looming time when you are to leave your family and home to start your own life in the world. Add also the inner chemical hormonal changes that are restructuring your emotions…and there, you go, the teenage years. Be gentle with your self. Be gentle with your parents. Share this information as a new perspective and discuss it. Perhaps it will sensitize all to treat each other more lovingly, supportively, and with greater care. AT the very least it can give you a way to understand the bigger picture to have a different response to the things that happen.


If you can create and maintain a loving relationship with your family of origin then you are well on your way towards personal reunion with your whole self of design and a life that flows much more smoothly and lovingly.


And now, briefly, let’s look at grandparents. Being removed from being the parent allows the grandparent to show up in a much more loving way. They do not have to go home and face in house issues on a daily basis. They are less triggered and can be neutral, seeing and affirming only your grandness and beauty. They likely have no unresolved energetic/emotional issues with you. It can be looked at as a reward for parents and for you as well. When parents become grandparents they can pour all that love and valuing on the grandchild. Beautiful. If you have grandparents, please make sure you create opportunity to be around them and enjoy them. Of course, they may not all be capable of such neutrality because of their own unresolved issues (remember that the chakra cleanings revisit all through one’s life to give support to reclaim one’s own design).


One last mention here…youth has exuberance and a feeling of immortality (which is actually true in the original design,not so much the way things have played out for humanity thus far). That makes them think they have all the answers ( and they actually do, in the big picture, but in the Earthly plane…not so much). Human life is about reawakening through experience and learnings. There is nothing wrong with a shortcut. The more one is alive in the current incarnation then the more they have experiential knowledge. This knowledge is wisdom, earned and born through moments of living. In indigenous cultures they treasure the older ones and often consult them and sit at their feet to hear about living and learn tools that will open up new doors and amplify the joy of living. They are called the Elders, the Wise Ones. Consider adopting this perspective and seek the wisdom of your own elders, be they parents, grandparents, great grandparents, or older siblings. We are really here to support one another to live the full life in remembrance of who we truly are. Learn to rely upon and use the human resources available to you. Respect and honor the older ones…for you, too, will be in their shoes over time.


You can create your own autonomy and stand fully in your power as part of the greater community which includes parents, sibling, and grandparents…as a starter. This is what a wise one would do. One who is aware of the big picture is inclusive…and that makes life so much richer.


 Tools for Conscious Living 18:
Parents and Grandparents

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