To be in relationship is to be in conscious connection with another…person, place or thing. It can be active or passive. There is interchange, sharing, and a host of energetic requirements to evolve the relationship, if desired. Each of us is in a host of relationships simultaneously. We tend them as we see fit.

Most think of relationship as the interaction between two humans, as in “in relationship”. And, as such, we carry history, perceptions, patterns, and expectations about that relationship. Human relationships are typically dysfunctional because of the lack of the big picture understanding of the expansiveness and depth of potential in true relationships.

In a world that is progressively isolating, judgmental, and fear producing, it is a major challenge for one to be open to and willing to make connections. Relationships become increasingly temporary and self serving, in a way that has major cost.

As we evolve and wake up to a higher vibration dimension we, as a species are becoming closer and more entwined in a growing expanse of Oneness. This can be frightening to one who is under the influence of the victimization that often accompanies the old ways of seeing relationship.

It is time to wake up and  explore the new paradigms of conscious relationship

To be in relationship is to be connected, for now. This can be conscious or unconscious, as in being in relationship with Cosmic Law or the Laws of Physics. Even in these, however, one who is aware can see the results of the relationship and consciously make adjustments to impact the nature of its form. The forms of relationship are changing because they are expanding through greater awareness, revealing that believed in limits held in the Piscean times are giving way to a profound deepening interconnection between all of life and beyond. The contrast is presented in the next topic. For now let’s view characteristics of a conscious relationship.

Energetically, a relationship is the magnetic attraction/connection between two elements. The attraction is frequency based and reflects the inner dimensions, thoughts, beliefs, history of the current you. In other words, we attract that which serves our vibration best to reveal more of our true design to ourselves

Relationships between two individuals are not accidental. Rather, they are the workings of the Higher Self to organize your moments with awareness potentials that can help you to clear away old energetic debris and see more clearly the true nature of your I Am That I Am Expressing as You.

Conscious awareness of these two principles will afford you the opportunity to embrace that which is present in the now and trust it into a connected experience. Knowing that the person or situation is there for the opening of your new self can be motivational to prompting you to look at the bigger picture to find the greater gift.

That which we are having trouble is often that which has the greatest potential for growth in awareness that will assist in clearing away the past emotional energetic debris. The conflict in a relationship points us in the direction of our own deeper issues, places where we hide woundings and child-made decisions about survival. Herein lies great opportunity to create a healing connection.

That which is before you is the primary teacher in this now moment of you. Ignore it, run away from it, and you will simply get a new version of the same frequency in a different package. Rebound relationships between humans are a sure recipe for disaster, or at least a more pronounced opportunity to look at the hooks, or places where we have energetic issues restimulated.

A relationship creates an energetic ball between the parties. This ball contains the sum of the experiences between the two. To change the nature of the relationship one or both parties must do something to separate from the ball of energy that defines the patterns of the relationship (often unconscious elements until they create challenge). This will allow the relationship to reset with fresh potential.

Too often relationships are sustained by the past, and thus,  produce the same old result. Woundings and fears and beliefs and subsequent patterns combine to produce the familiar. Many long standing relationship are held together by a less than ideal comfort zone. This limiting zone gives us the illusion that it works. Typically, this keeps the relationship from expanding at all. Personal clearing of the energy of the past woundings frees one up to experiencing new, higher frequency forms of connection.

We have been taught to believe that relationships of value must be long lasting. Institutions based on now lost reasoning are used to force belief systems and keep a connection forced together long after it has lost its energetic and expansive value.

Because relationships are a reflection of all parties involved, personal awareness, work, and change must accompany the evolving relationship. One sided work only vibrationally moves the other out of the frequency of connection. Settling is often a giving up on self, most likely out of fear from past experiences still retained ion the tissues.

People not in a “strong relationship’ often feel and dwell in being alone. The loneliness perpetuates the movement of woundings that are seeking to be released. Too many get caught in wallowing and self-pity rather than using the experience as the catalyst for release and change.

Vulnerabilty has a bad name because it implies weakness. On the contrary, the true nature of the word is about being open and transparent and willing to be authentic, honest, and willing to create solution. Vulnerability in a relationship creates an air of safety.

Safety is a direct result of past experiences, beliefs, and treasured patterns that serve to build walls around one’s willingness to move beyond the house of cards they have built to survive. This is a false safety that only restricts. One must venture outside of the walls to grow and see the bigger life.

Relationships are often the place where power struggles occur. One is more controlling, verbal, stronger, more manipulative and they use these to Lord over the other, creating a dynamic that severely restricts both, forcing them to run their games on one another. A bully needs someone to bully. A fearful one needs someone to be afraid of. In relationships of equal power both parties are served and thrive.

People in relationship need balance, time to recharge themselves, often away from the other. The ideal relationships allow space  for just that. Controlling partners will squeeze the life out of the other, only pushing them away from any desire to be present.

Relationships are best if allowed to be mutually empowering, supporting both parties in doing that which serves their inner being and that which encourages them to be in their wholeness.

By witnessing another and sincerely affirming their beauty and magnificence one can go far in activating the inner healing power of the other.

Self care for each party is foundational for a healthy relationship. Branded as selfish in the past, this conscious choice actually serves to sustain the individual to allow them to have the best of themselves in each moment. This allows for limited hooking into the others patterns, co-dependence, or manipulation. Taking care of self allows for one to be in unconditional love, not taking on the others issues, but, rather, witnessing them to reach deeper to find their own solution.

Relationships transcend time and space, being felt on many levels and over great distances. The energetic connection is available 24/7 to those who are open and aware.

Love is the ultimate expression in any relationship, self love as well as expressed love. They are the perfect vehicle in which to enter the higher frequencies of Big Love so that the spiritual elements can infuse the experience.  Sadly, love is used and abused and coerced in a bastardization of its true frequency. This is the fault of the Piscean model. What is unfolding is the sweeping energy of the greater love that will replace this compromised frequency.

Sex is a deep and profound expression of mutual respect and the Cosmic Love. Sadly, it, too, has been reduced to a shell of its potential. It has become a manipulative tool that hurts and abuses and disempowers through controlling intentions. All of this is culturally fed and sustained by the the unprocessed woundings held in tissues and cells. Sexually energy is also a second chakra frequency. Having a couple divert the energy into joyful activity, creativity, experience, spirited conversation can seriously help to channel the energy in ways that do not harm or compromise another. The pressure to direct energetic connection between two like frequency individuals into sexual expression has a tragic undertone…often resulting in a truly important a potentially expansive connection to get used up energetically only to be discarded prematurely.

Clear communication between partners is foundational and essential to a conscious relationship. Each party deserves to be heard and witnessed. The unexpressed is the most prominent cause of relationships failing. A conscious relationship celebrates both parties and calls for mutual and collective evolution. Reawakening together is a profound experience that births moments of cosmic delight. Interrupting the other is deadly. Reflective listening, as controlling as it may sound, is a powerful tool. One’s tone of voice is a critical element that is often primary over the words spoken in impact. Sharing each other’s experience of the same thing can be revealing and uniting. Knowing the other’s Love Language is a vital tool in creating a mutually serving experience that is solid in Love.

The Heart center is the focal point of conscious relationship. Running every thing through here raises the vibration to allow it to reflect and invite in the highest. Love is All There Is….

Most of these elements of conscious relationship address human primary relationships. They apply also, as we shall see, to relationships of any kind. Relationships happen to reveal us to ourselves. They can be the icing on the cake of one who is aware and active in their awareness, functioning as a reward to make moments more expansive and cosmic.

The Care and Feeding of Relationships

Some key elements in relationship care:

1. Relationships of all kinds must be consciously tended to.
2. One must be open to receive and willing to give for the sweet exchange to take place.
3. To take proper care of oneself first, paves the way to having the clarity and energy to sustain clean connections with others.
4. Relationships are in constant evolution. This requires awareness and a willingness to share feelings, thoughts, and experiences with all parties in the relationship.
5. The debris of the past unexpressed emotions interferes with the evolution of each relationship and keeps one circling in an eddy of fear as long as one chooses to do so.
6. The encounters we experience are not random. Each player is seeded with the exact frequency and personal history/ experience to feed us the vibration that will reveal the next reawakening of the I Am That I Am Expressing As Me.
7. We engage as long as we do. The moments are the road signs and the beacons that point us to the next knowing. Evolution is personal and collective for all involved. Thus we serve one another.
8. Chance meetings are anything but that. The vibration does the work. Occasionally we have strong insight that completes a long standing circuit. Typically, however, we have an experience that crawls out the veil to give us a glimpse that functions as a catalyst to do the next thing.
9. To think that we can leave one thing/person for another for a better time is foolish and short sighted if the inner work/learnings are not attended to. The previous one brought all the opportunities we could handle to wake up to our limiting patterns and compromising beliefs. If we choose to not learn and run away we will surely find ourselves staring at the same face in a new hat.
10. The heart is the primary vehicle that reveals the wholeness of life. Protecting the heart from feeling/ releasing./ Clearing/ expanding/celebrating/loving will be your ticket to a whole lot of lifetimes where you simply recycle the familiar and go slowly towards remembering while you wonder why the same people keep coming back in new clothes.
11. The past does not serve a relationship for it ties each to a form that only served that moment. Expansion is tethered to the fear residue of the mass of experiences that made up the time together. Release can only come when one or both unplug from what was. This requires a willingness to see each moment as new and choose to toss the loss game, the pain game, and the abandonment game into the abyss where they belong..
12. Eye contact is everything.
13. Listening to the other is the vehicle that translates as witnessing which leads to healing which results in the deeper connection that unifies hearts and souls.
14. Tone of voice betrays the emotion underneath the words. This is really what we listen for. Aligning the tone with the emotion and the words will result in communication that opens doors and hearts to seed expansion in the relationship. We can all spot a fakir even we cannot articulate it.
15. Breathing together diminishes fear and unifies the heart which then reveals the deeper meaning of the current connection.
16. Touch is essential to bridge the gap between physical and spirit. Sending Love from the heart through the hands and skin will ignite the complete expanse of all the connections between the two frequencies involved. The ignition of this memory can be the perfect vehicle to clear the energetic debris.
17. We come into the space of people who resonate with us at the current frequency. Each mutually serves the other for as long as it is needed. Holding on to someone against their inner or outer will is a violation. Learning to bless and let go allows for the necessary motion that reveals the bigger picture to each. Standing alone gives us back ourselves wrapped in the higher frequency of what has just been learned, further expanding our personal I Amness.
18. For sex to serve the greater truth it must have individual and shared meaning based on a higher frequency. It is a cosmic connection that can expand and heal each. It must include the emotional, mental, and spiritual along with the physical for it to be considered holy and divine. It is conscious and is best served by consistently tending to both partner’s energetic and inspired needs. Riding the wave of spontaneity is highly recommended. To dance together in this improvisation requires that the senses are on and the child is active. Opening the back side of the chakras allows the cosmos to flood the experience and lift it out of the sphere of the mundane.
19. We are in constant relationship with all of life. Learning to notice the multi tiered forms of each moment will reveal the majesty and magic of the connections as they oscillate. Maintaining wonder will open inner doors that flood you with deep and glowing gratification at the revelation of the remarkable design. Everything within view is part of your sphere of relationship. Including nature and space and form and people and circumstance will significantly expand how you are in relationship with life.  You are being gifted constantly. See it as such. Experience fully on all levels all that is brought to the altar of your awareness.
20. Know that you have immediate access to all the relationships you have ever had in any of your incarnations and in all future lives. Knowing this you are able to draw upon experiences and identify strangers that wander into your field. You can bring forth the healings necessary and manifest the allies ready to assist. Leave nothing unsettled or unresolved. For you have the capacity to fully serve every form of every moment. The tools are there and the design is symbiotic to the current choice, assuring success and balance and release as needed. Be a willing participant in your life. It will truly serve you beyond your wildest dreams. Yes, it is that profound.
21. Remember the primary need of self care as it prepares you to embrace and serve whatever may come. You will have more of everything to give to the current form. And you will not be depleted or compromised. The more you attend to it the closer you are to your frequency of your original design, which allows you to self sustain.
22. All beings are connected and interconnected. All behaviors impact the whole. All feelings are collectively felt. All choices influence the forms of all life. We oscillate in and out of an infinite number of lives in multidimensional interchanges that transcend time and space. Simultaneous lives and relationship with completely unique lives are happening. We often integrate them during the dream state and in meditation. The bottom line is to be open to always inviting in the larger expanse.
23. Trust implicitly how relationships mirror how we treat our own self. The more we love self and tend Self then the more loving and sustaining the outer relationships are.
24. Having a lot of relationships serve the many parts of us relieves the pressure for the need to have one who can do it all.