Relationships are the primary arena where we learn about ourselves and fine tune our capacity to release our heart-centered design for integrating into Oneness. It is here where we reclaim our ability for unconditional love for ourselves and for all of life.
A challenge is that most have been programmed to see and experience relationships as a potential battleground, where they fight to be heard and witnessed and likely, fixed. Fixed in that they finally get the love they did not receive earlier in whatever circumstance that happened in the early years and actually, beyond into previous lives.
Truth is, there is much that must be undone, much that is required to be remembered, and much that can be applied in order to create the kind of loving relationships with all of life, the ones we are designed to experience willingly. To that end I shall proceed
Much to be undone: (a not so complete list of what must be released and replaced)
1). We are each flawed and limited
2). We must be fixed
3). We cannot do it ourselves
4). There is someone who will do it
5). We must find that someone so that everything will be OK
6). “I Can’t live if living is without you”
7). We fear abandonment (and so we too often set it up)
8). We are wounded by life and the expressions of Love and that energetic is determining how life is currently showing up in places, things, and, of course, people
9). We are taught via music, movies, books, word of mouth, and personal experience, that love as relationship likely ends, and thus, believe it is just a matter of time until we are left behind.
10. We think and therefore, see, that everyone else has it better than us…thus we are f’d up
11). We force our own version and belief of what love looks like, feels like, is like, upon those we are in partnership with, likely insuring that we will not get what we want
12). Because of wounding we have a hard time accepting that we are likely the source of our own discontent and then resist any efforts to gain insight, resorting to blame, judgment, anger, and rage to fulfill our own fears by insuring aloneness
13). Culture and successive lives have taught us to be alone at the same time we are told to be in relationship so we stumble between the two in a dance that knows its own repeating steps. Slowly we are learning that our design is to experience the beauty and magnificence of alone/together…more on this in a bit)
14). As a primary relationship grows and the partners get closer they feel safer and start to believe that this “might just last”. The growing safety allows the wounding to start to reveal and release directly into the pot of misunderstanding and blame and running away. Without the awareness that the shit will hit the fan, most relationships will fail.
15). Celestial Law magnetizes people and places and events that will assist us in clearing and releasing the wounds and their energetics. Those we align with are likely going to stir the pot and invite us to see ourselves more clearly and thus increase our chance for longevity in relationship. Unfortunately, and as we have been taught, we will likely get pissed and leave and start the process over again with a new package made up of the same issues that we have not transformed….can you say, affair? Or rebound relationship?
16). For most, the most dysfunctional relationship we have is with ourselves. We have been taught that we are flawed for so long that most think it is just who they are and likely walk the line of hopelessness which leads to settling for poor, destructive, and abusive relationships because that is all we can get, or worse yet, it is what we deserve.
17). Our family of origin is a likely model for how we do relationships until we get to the heart chakra revisit/cleanse/realignment at age 42. This helps to take the cap off the sadness and grief of love lost. It is the beginning of the healing in that the work must descend through the Solar Plexus wall to the sources of the wounds held in the sacral chakra. Is it a especially in these times we are capable of a rebirth by morning.
18). One of the best cleansers for the energetics of relationship detritus are tears. But we know the cultural attitudes towards those. This must be shattered so that the rivers may flow freely once again.
19). We are in relationship with all of life in all of its forms. Our treatment of the earth, the animals, insects, the moment, are all indicative of imbalance. As we clear the inner, the outer will align by Cosmic Law…guaranteed.
20). Working with all of these statements of the current state of our inner union will activate the Celestial support to anchor the Love that will facilitate the changes needed to thrive in relationships. Take these one at a time and work with them until they are each cleared. As always, the first step is critical. Take it and then pay attention. New information will arrive in subtle and not so subtle forms. Go there and stand in it. Feel. Rewrite endings. Speak the words unsaid. Make amends when the time presents itself. Forgive, but only after you have released and cleared the energetics of the woundings. Ask for support. Give love. Trust life and all that arrives and jump into it as it is the perfect tool for the next step to catapult forward upon.
Much that is required to be remembered: (make each a part of your body, mind, spirit, emotions, energetic system, and viscera):
1). Relationships are a primary tool for the Source to experience Itself. Free Will opens the door to the infinite panorama of possibility.
2). Relationship is a primary tool for checking where we are vibrationally. The outer reflects the inner. One can use the kind of attractions that manifest to determine which elements need attention and adjustment.
3). Relationships are a tool to trigger, allow, and support the release of the energetic woundings contained in cell and tissue.
4). One is in relationship with all of life.
5). Being in the presence of any form of being creates the opportunity for a relationship
6). Relationship serves both parties mutually by creating opportunity for greater awareness and adjustment and clearing.
7). No matter the form, we are never alone. The multi-dimensional support team of angels, etheric teachers, guides, and teachers are ever present and available by call.
8). All relationships are heart based and are invited in to grow the heart chakra awareness and expansion.
9). Love is the primary Source for relationship. Our capacity to love is honed through relationship.
10). The relationship with self is of primary importance and must be maintained and cleared in order to be in relationship with others.
11). Although we may be in a primary relationship, there are many others who can be supportive of that and serve to get all of our needs met.
12). It is necessary to treat all relationships with honor, respect, compassion, and empathy.
13). Being grateful expands the depth of any experience.
14). Source Love is present in all connections.
15). Self Care can create the space where we can let others be who they are and still be nurtured within by our own infinite supply
16). Emotions and their flow of expression are essential elements to life in this Earthly dimension. Thus, they are to be honored, experienced fully, and expressed without hesitation.
17). Love is the perfect salve for any issue between beings
18). Any ending in a relationship will open the door to something better of higher vibration that is more in alignment with the frequency of I Am Expressing as Me
19). Relationships that never end are held in place by lower frequency cords that require cutting.
20). Conscious relationships are cooperative, communicative, loving, respectful, authentic, supportive, compassionate, nurturing, healing, joyful, elevating, grateful, spirited, expansive, playful, life affirming, child-like, tender, passionate, sensual, juicy…and oh so much more
21). We create relationship with whatever we focus upon. That moment opens the door to an expansive experience that reveals itself through the attention and the subsequent interaction.
22). All relationships that we have ever engaged in, in all of our incarnations, are available in the now to re-experience, heal, draw from, celebrate
23). Our intentions are powerful magnets for relationship.
24). Maintaining a relationship requires clearing energies in the now and just beyond. Washing them with the past is a sure way to diminish their light. Each relationship is born anew in the now if we let it and move forward in that knowing.
25). Our moments of living are filled with the infinite potential of countless relationships maintained and experienced on all levels. Our interconnectedness is that profound.
26). Consciously connecting at the heart level is a loving act that empowers us beyond our current knowing.
27). Sexual connecting is the Divine Experience that reveals the depths of the power of union, showing us the Cosmic blueprint for that fully conscious moment.
28). The unfolding Oneness is revealing that the relationship with the Whole contains all the permutations that bring life to our moments.
Much that can be applied: (over and over to what is present in the now)
1). Relationships of all kinds must be consciously tended to.
2). One must be open to receive and willing to give for the sweet exchange to take place.
3). Taking proper care of oneself first paves the way to having the clarity and energy to sustain clean connections with others.
4). Relationships are in constant evolution. This requires awareness and a willingness to share feelings, thoughts, and experiences with all parties in the relationship.
5). The debris of the past unexpressed emotions interferes with the evolution of each relationship and keeps one circling in an eddy of fear as long as one chooses to do so.
6). The encounters we experience are not random. Each player is seeded with the exact frequency and personal history/ experience to feed us the vibration that will reveal the next reawakening of the I Am That I Am Expressing As Me.
7). We engage as long as we do. The moments are the road signs and the beacons that point us to the next knowing. Evolution is personal and collective for all involved. Thus, we serve one another.
8). Chance meetings are anything but that. The vibration does the work. Occasionally we have strong insight that completes a long standing circuit. Typically, however, we have an experience that crawls out of the veil to give us a glimpse that functions as a catalyst to do the next thing.
9) To think that we can leave one thing/person for another for a better time is foolish and short sighted if the inner work/learnings are not attended to. The previous one brought all the opportunities we could handle to wake up to our limiting patterns and compromising beliefs. If we choose to not learn and run away we will surely find ourselves staring at the same face in a new hat.
10). The heart is the primary vehicle that reveals the wholeness of life. Protecting the heart from feeling/releasing/clearing/expanding/celebrating/loving will be your ticket to a whole lot of lifetimes where you simply recycle the familiar and go slowly towards remembering while you wonder why the same people keep coming back in new clothes.
11). The past does not serve a relationship for it ties each to a form that only served that moment. Expansion is tethered to the fear residue of the mass of experiences that made up the time together. Release can only come when one or both unplug from what was. This requires a willingness to see each moment as new and choose to toss the loss game, the pain game, and the abandonment game into the abyss where they belong..
12). Eye contact is everything.
13). Listening to the other is the vehicle that translates as witnessing which leads to healing which results in the deeper connection that unifies hearts and souls.
14). Tone of voice betrays the emotion underneath the words. This is really what we listen for. Aligning the tone with the emotion and the words will result in communication that opens doors and hearts to seed expansion in the relationship. We can all spot a fakir even though we cannot necessarily articulate it.
15). Breathing together diminishes fear and unifies the heart which then reveals the deeper meaning of the current connection.
16). Touch is essential to bridge the gap between physical and spirit. Sending Love from the heart through the hands and skin will ignite the complete expanse of all the connections between the two frequencies involved. The ignition of this memory can be the perfect vehicle to clear the energetic debris.
17). We come into the space of people who resonate with us at the current frequency. Each mutually serves the other for as long as it is needed. Holding on to someone against their inner or outer will is a violation. Learning to bless and let go allows for the necessary motion that reveals the bigger picture to each. Standing alone gives us back ourselves wrapped in the higher frequency of what has just been learned, further expanding our personal I Amness.
18). For sex to serve the greater truth it must have individual and shared meaning based on a higher frequency. It is a cosmic connection that can expand and heal each. It must include the emotional, mental, and spiritual along with the physical for it to be considered holy and divine. It is conscious and is best served by consistently tending to both partner’s energetic and inspired needs. Riding the wave of spontaneity is highly recommended. To dance together in this improvisation requires that the senses are on and the child is active. Opening the back side of the chakras allows the cosmos to flood the experience and lift it out of the sphere of the mundane.
19) We are in constant relationship with all of life. Learning to notice the multi-tiered forms of each moment will reveal the majesty and magic of the connections as they oscillate. Maintaining wonder will open inner doors that flood you with deep and glowing gratification at the revelation of the remarkable design. Everything within view is part of your sphere of relationship. Including nature and space and form and people and circumstance will significantly expand how you are in relationship with life. You are being gifted constantly. See it as such. Experience fully on all levels all that is brought to the altar of your awareness.
20). Know that you have immediate access to all the relationships you have ever had in any of your incarnations and in all future lives. Knowing this, you are able to draw upon experiences and identify strangers that wander into your field. You can bring forth the healings necessary and manifest the allies ready to assist. Leave nothing unsettled or unresolved. For you have the capacity to fully serve every form of every moment. The tools are there and the design is symbiotic to the current choice, assuring success and balance and release as needed. Be a willing participant in your life. It will truly serve you beyond your wildest dreams. Yes, it is that profound.
21). Remember the primary need of self care as it prepares you to embrace and serve whatever may come. You will have more of everything to give to the current form. And you will not be depleted or compromised. The more you attend to it the closer you are to your frequency of your original design, which allows you to self sustain.
22). All beings are connected and interconnected. All behaviors impact the whole. All feelings are collectively felt. All choices influence the forms of all life. We oscillate in and out of an infinite number of lives in multidimensional interchanges that transcend time and space. Simultaneous lives and relationship with completely unique lives are happening. We often integrate them during the dream state and in meditation. The bottom line is to be open to always inviting in the larger expanse.
23). Trust implicitly how relationships mirror how we treat our own self. The more we love self and tend Self then the more loving and sustaining the outer relationships are.
24). Having a lot of relationships serves the many parts of us as it relieves the pressure for the need to have one who can do it all. (Be aware of the dynamic cost of multiple sexual relationships…enter only if you are ready)