This process requires participation by the adult and the parental parts of the Whole self as the communication must be two way for the child to develop the willingness to surrender control and release patterns. It is the adult self that provides the supportive structure and also gives appropriate guidance when necessary or, better yet, called for. The adult self has learned patterns and ways of being as a result of the amorphous connection with the child up until now. He/she will also be invited and required to make shifts and develop a more authentic expression of self. The child is watching. The parental part must develop and apply new strategies of loving support and guidance as well. This journal then is for both so they can share thoughts, brainstorm, release frustrations, give self appreciation, etc. Ideally, an entry a day is a very good thing. Be spontaneous…that is even better.
- Reflect on the journey thus far with you child self. What have you gained? How do you feel about the relationship? What have been the changes? What still needs to happen?
- What is it like having this relationship with your little one? Do you see a difference in how your life is? What has become better? What still could use some changing?
- How do you feel about engaging your child to express about preconception and birth? Are you open enough to trust that the words she shares are accurate? If not, then what is in the way for you?
- In all of these reflections about the years 0-21 shared by your child self, is there anything that he missed that you are aware of? Are there events or situations with others that you recall as significant that have yet to be listed?
- Reflect on the changes you have made since 21. Where did you do some significant work and really move in a new direction? What happened from that choice? Are there any adjustments that you would like to make? You know you can do that, if you desire…
- Reflect on the role of anger in your life thus far. How has it played out? What do you do when you are angry? Is it OK for you to get angry? Make a list of anyone or anything you have ever been angry at or about. Maybe you want to say something to some or all of them…do it
- Reflect on the role of fear in your life thus far. How has it played out? What do you do when you are afraid? Is it OK for you to feel afraid? Make a list of anyone or anything you have ever been afraid of. Maybe you want to say something to some or all of them…do it
- Reflect on the role of sadness/grief in your life thus far. How has it played out? What do you do when you are sad or grieving? Is it OK for you to feel sad or to grieve? Make a list of anyone or anything you have ever been sad about. Maybe you want to say something to some or all of them…do it
